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Saturday, October 31, 2009 - 5:45 PM
let's keep it open


"Let's continue this as an open relationship. But whatever you do, please save the last dance for me."
- Rafie.

To be honest.
I thought being in an open relationship means polyamory,
having one night stand or even involve in cheating your partner.
But people are often mistaken by this.
It actually does not constitute any of these.

I made the effort to google the true meaning of that term.
Just to get myself a clear view of it since i've not been in one.

"Open relationship is the one, when you do not depend on one lover but remain free to love. It is about getting freedom from your own insecurities. It is an opportunity to experience the love, which makes you free from the bondage of miseries and agonies of life. However, this term can also be misinterpreted as infidelity, but in my understanding, open relationship is the deepest form of committed relationship, involving thorough respect for your partner, without any intention to exploit them. Only those who are masters of their own emotions and feel no need to depend on anyone else can enter into open relationship. Open relationship is about relations with your partner spiritually, when you respect him/her so much that you feel no need to cling, possess, or manipulate.

It is definitely not one night stand, as anyone feeling sexually driven can never truly respect his partner and hence can not relate to his/her soul.

There are many people out there who claim to be in open relationship are just exploiting this concept for their own selfish motivations.

It is very difficult to be in an open relationship because human beings have their own fears and they need someone to cling to. They want to possess their lover, as it appears that they cannot exist without them. When such a possession exists, it is impossible to love someone truly.

True open relationship is based on true love. It continues until the fragrance of love exists and truly causes the lovers to evolve with each other. Then, a time comes when their coevolution is over and that is the time, they should say thanks to each other and move away on their individual path with deep gratitude. Normal love relationship/marriage have to be dragged on, even if they have lost the fragrance and they often become the stumbling block to your own evolution path. Open relationship can work wonders, as it can give real boost to one's creativity, as lovers become one and begin to tap into the ultimate creative source of life. When the relationship has lost fragrance, it is no more creative, as both the partners are just playing manipulating games with each other.

When the relationship is truly loving, great souls have a chance to descend in this world. Hence the chances are that children conceived in the moments of true love will be highly spiritual self and hence they will fill the life of their parents and the whole world with beauty and divinity.
- by Soni2006.
(http://hubpages.com/hub/Is-open-relationship-an-act-of-sexual-infidelity_1)



I have my faith and trust in Rafie.

It's only a matter of time for me to put behind all those fears and jealousy.
And since he had mentioned 'please save the last dance for me',
why should i be worried?
At the end of the day, it will still be him who's going to take me home.
It will still be him in who's arms i'm gonna be in.

And I love him a lot.
Truly.

He not only wants to be my boyfriend.
But also, a friend. A companion. A buddy.
And i know he's doing this for our own good.
For our own future.

Quoted from Leen's blog.
"The key to it is, accept everything with sincerity and patience.
With God will, the effort put in by both you and your partner will be paid off.
No relationship is a smooth sailing."